When did I cease to be your partner and become an employee?
Is there a union I can join because I would like to go on strike regarding pay and conditions!
This morning I dared put a load of washing in the machine. What reaction do I get from you - "What the hell are you washing now?"
Actually dear its the youngest childs washing, remember the child that spews everywhere all the time. He has lots of stuff sure, but only limited spew receptacles and once that basket is full it begins to start smelling really sour so guess what I wash it. Its not an unusual thing to do. Would you not react the opposite way if I just let it all go.
Everyday there is something that sparks these attacks - and yes it is an attack. Remember the other one this morning - "Why haven't you emptied the dishwasher?" and my response - "Why are you asking me when you are perfectly capable and obviously haven't done it either?" Remember the huge argument that ensued. Remember what I told you - don't have a go at me sweetheart I am NOT a timid little mouse who will just bow my head and say "yes dear, I'll do that right now, sorry". If that's what you want in a wife then feel free to go and find her - guess what SHE DOESN'T EXIST.
My other nitpick is your constant comment "I didn't see you do it".. Of course that immediately means that it never happened and the result is obviously a figment of your demented imagination. Do you want to install a full surveillance system on the house so that you DO see everything, that way you might just be able to figure out that yes I do thing during the day, and no your daughter does not sit in front of the TV all day - in fact its turned off the minute you leave cause I don't normally watch it either. Oh that's right I'm on the computer all day - sure its on and yes I do check it, cause you know what - I'm isolated and at least I get some form on adult communication through the computer. Before you say anything, yep I understand how sad that is but at the moment such is my life.
Try to figure out this simple concept - I am an adult, I don't need to be told what to do, you don't need to live me list of jobs for the day - I ignore them. You go to work and do your job, and whilst I am a SAHM I will stay here and do MY job - the way I chose to do it. If you should ever feel our home is not clean or your children looked after then feel free to discuss this with me - but trust me boy if you think this house is messy you really need to get out more, we don't even have dust. Also I will never understand your "thing" about the washing - no it doesn't save money if I do all the washing on one day, in fact it costs more - because half of it will end up in the dryer once the line if full, so why shouldn't I spread my load and do a little bit each day. So drop it. Appreciate me whilst I am at home, because once I return to work you either best be up for a fight or I get my cleaner back - your choice..
Lastly - I want a pay rise, because you're a tyrant! Good thing that for some reason I still seem to love you..
Hope he reads it and understands!!
ReplyDeleteand my laptop is on all day, but it doesn't mean i sit beside it all day long either..if Jett is watching Playschool I get on etc, it is all int he same room as where jett is so it isn't like he is in one room and I am in the other!I know what you mean about the adult communication, nice to tal to someone other then a 2yo sometimes..! Your doing a great job, don't push yourself to get the house immaculate to please hubby, do what you want, if it gets done it gets done, if it doesn't, don't strees..it is life..you have a spewy baby, i wouldnt expect you to do every single thing while your caring for a spewer! and omg, wash the clothes daily of course..sif you'd leave spew clothes sitting to smell..!
Go girl! Let us know what reaction you get when and/or if he reads this...!
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